Lesson 34 Adolescence青春期
First listen and then answer the following question.聽(tīng)錄音，然后回答以下問(wèn)題。
What do adolescents respect in parents?
Parents are often upset when their children praise the homes of their friends and regard it as a slur on their own cooking, or cleaning, or furniture, and often are foolish enough to let the adolescents see that they are annoyed. They may even accuse them of disloyalty, or make some spiteful remark about the friends' parents. Such loss of dignity and descent into childish behaviour on the part to their parents about the place or people they visit. Before very long the parents will be complaining that the child is so secretive and never tells them anything, but they seldom realize that they have brought this on themselves.
當(dāng)家長(zhǎng)聽(tīng)到孩子贊揚(yáng)自己朋友的家時(shí)，總感到不安，認(rèn)為孩子在嫌棄自家的飯菜、衛(wèi)生、或家具，而且愚蠢地讓孩子看出自己的煩惱。他們甚至責(zé)備孩子不忠，或者 講些小朋友家長(zhǎng)的壞話。家長(zhǎng)這種有失身份和孩子氣的作法使青春期的孩子大為震驚，決心以后不再向父母講述去過(guò)的地方和見(jiàn)過(guò)的人。不要很久,家長(zhǎng)就會(huì)抱怨孩 子守口如瓶，什么事也不告訴他們，殊不知這是他們自找的。
Disillusionment with the parents, however good and adequate they may be both as parents and as individuals, is to some degree inevitable. Most children have such a high ideal of their parents, unless the parents themselves have been unsatisfactory, that it can hardly hope to stand up to a realistic evaluation. Parents would be greatly surprised and deeply touched if they hope to stand up to a realistic evaluation. Parents would be greatly surprised and deeply touched if they realized how much belief their children usually have in their character and infallibility, and how much this faith means to a child. If parents were prepared for this adolescent reaction, and realized that it was a sign that the child was growing up and developing valuable powers of observation and independent judgment, they would not be so hurt, and therefore would not drive the child into opposition by resenting and resisting it.
不管家長(zhǎng)的人品有多么好，作為父母有多么合格，孩子們對(duì)家長(zhǎng)幻想的破滅在某種程度上是不可避免的。除非父母自身不能令人滿意，大多數(shù)孩子對(duì)父母估價(jià)過(guò)高， 以致這種估價(jià)很難指望經(jīng)受住現(xiàn)實(shí)的考驗(yàn)。如果家長(zhǎng)意識(shí)到孩子們通常是多么相信家長(zhǎng)的品行和絕對(duì)正確，意識(shí)到孩子們的這種信念會(huì)對(duì)孩子產(chǎn)生多么大的影響，那 么家長(zhǎng)會(huì)大為吃驚和深受感動(dòng)的。如果家長(zhǎng)對(duì)青少年的這種反應(yīng)有思想準(zhǔn)備，并且意識(shí)到這象征著孩子們正在成熟和正在發(fā)展寶貴的觀察力、獨(dú)立判斷力，那么他們 就不會(huì)那樣傷心，也就不會(huì)由于怨恨和抵觸這種反應(yīng)，而把孩子推到自己的對(duì)立面去。
The adolescent, with his passion for sincerity, always respects a parent who admits that he is wrong, or ignorant, or even that he has been unfair or unjust. What the child cannot forgive is the parent's refusal to admit these charges if the child knows them to be true.
青少年酷愛(ài)真誠(chéng)，對(duì)于能夠承認(rèn)錯(cuò)誤或無(wú)知、甚至承認(rèn)自己做得不分平或不公正的父母，他們總是尊敬的，孩子們所不能原諒的是：父母錯(cuò)了，孩子們也看出來(lái)了，可是做父母的還不肯承認(rèn)。
Victorian parents believed that they kept their dignity by retreating behind an unreasoning authoritarian attitude; in fact they did nothing of the kind, but children were then too cowed to let them know how they really felt. Today we tend to go to the other extreme, but on the whole this is a healthier attitude both for the child and the parent. It is always wiser and safer to face up to reality, however painful it may be at the moment.
維多利亞時(shí)代的父母認(rèn)為，他們可靠無(wú)理的權(quán)威氣派來(lái)維護(hù)自己的尊嚴(yán)，實(shí)際上那是根本不行的。孩子們只不過(guò)被嚇得不敢讓父母知道自己的想法罷了。雖然現(xiàn)在我 們傾向于走向另一個(gè)極端，但總地來(lái)看，孩子和家長(zhǎng)雙方態(tài)度都比較端正。遇事采取面對(duì)現(xiàn)實(shí)的態(tài)度總是比較明智和穩(wěn)妥的，盡管會(huì)有暫時(shí)的痛苦。
New words and expressions 生詞和短語(yǔ)
adolescence
n. 青春期
slur
n. 底毀
adolescent
n. 青少年（12-18歲）
disloyalty
n. 不忠實(shí)
spiteful
adj. 惡意的，懷恨的
disillusionment
n. 幻滅感
evaluation
n. 評(píng)價(jià)
infallibility
n. 一貫正確
resent
v. 怨恨
sincerity
n. 誠(chéng)摯
victorian
adj. 維多利亞式的
retreat
v. 后退
unreasoning
adj. 不憑理智的
authoritarian
adj. 專(zhuān)制的
cow
v. 嚇唬
Notes on the text課文注釋
1 on the part of, 在...一邊。
2 they have brought this on themselves,他們是咎由自取。
3 stand up to,經(jīng)得起。
4 face up to,正規(guī)。
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